Marriage is an important commitment between two people who have decided to spend the rest of their lives together. But difficulties may arise to challenge their commitment. Life is not a bed of roses where things are always smooth going for a married couple. Before marriage, the couple is absorbed with one another and wants to spend all their time together; but after tying the knot, what causes the adverse change in the couples life and the need for help to save marriage?
Marriage is a union of two souls; it does not and cannot happen with just one party. There must be two to tango. And both parties must be in step with one another for the dance to perform beautifully. As in a dance, there would be one leader while the other follows by keeping step with the leader. It is this disciplined and cooperative principle and attitude that makes a dance performed to be appreciated by observers. Similarly, the same principle can be applied to marriage.
There will be ups and downs in any life, not just the married life. But if the right attitude is adopted, the couple is able to support one another through the difficult and challenging times and ride through the wave. They might even be thrilled with the challenge when they confront the issue together and positively, believing in each other and supporting one another. It is a time to apply and build trust while encouraging the spouse to grow in his/her character.
A beautiful marriage does not come easily or freely; it cannot happen just because you wish for it. It must be worked at; when the sweat, tears and love run through the marriage in good times and in bad times, the marriage aroma is sweet and pleasing. All marriages are different because the parties involved in each marriage are different. Even if one divorces because of irrevocable differences, entering another marriage will create another marriage that is different. The same principle of cooperation and effort applies. No marriage can survive, much less develop, on its own; just like a baby will die if left to fend on its own. Some things in life are not meant to be able to function on their own.
Hence, some ways to work at the marriage are communication, love, patience, forgiveness, intimacy and respect. There are many other ways that many successfully married couples can testify to; it all depends on each couple to decide what ways work best to strengthen and blossom their own marriage.
Quality time together by a married couple is important to build up the marriage. Spending time together means creating the opportunity to communicate with each other, which leads to a better understanding of your spouse. Making time to share an activity together is a sign of love and care, instead of being selfish and going about your personal activities.
A good marriage comes on when there is an acceptance of each other. The spouse does not have to be worried about being himself or herself in front of the other half, for he/she is accepted as he/she is by the spouse. Acceptance raises the self-confidence of a person which releases his potential for greater things.
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